BDNF BDSM bring healthy heart brain memory

A few years ago, the bestselling 50 Shades of Grey novels unleashed the acceptance of healthy foreplay (using light BDSM) in the bedroom or elsewhere. AARP and other online sources indicated that active foreplay calorie use and improved heart rate, anecdotal from use of a fit-bit.

BDNF(Brain-derived neurotrophic factor) are processes that are are a family of biomolecules – nearly all of which are peptides or small proteins – that support the growth, survival, and differentiation of both developing and mature neurons. Within the brain, BDNF is released by either a nerve cell and binds to a receptor on a nearby nerve cell. The associative process prompts the increased production of proteins associated with nerve cell survival and function. Basically, BDNF is an active neurotrophin that helps build cognition and memory. BDNF production is one theory that helps prevent onset of Alzheimer’s. Is it fully automatic?

According to neurologist and author Dr. David Perlmutter, activity and a ketogenic-type diet may help initiate BDNF activity to improve brain health longevity.

BDNF is like a neuron growth hormone. As a normal progression of aging, many hormone production levels decrease. Studies are exploring the possible roles reduced BDNF might have with developing memory decline. The study’s conclusion was a little unclear of what lifestyle changes might need changing if BDNF regulation is, indeed, a factor of Alzheimer’s Disease development.

Dr. Perlmutter believes that low-carbohydrate diets, in addition to aid BDNF constancy also may reduce body inflammation that might influence heart and brain health. Perlmutter further breaks down what carbohydrates are better than those you’re eating now.

It’s a shared belief between Perlmutter and other neurologists that walking, running, or any aerobic exercise helps release BDNF that helps develop synaptic growth in the mid-brain. The area is the hippocampus that is often associated with moods and memory. One existential psychology theorist had a pretty cute explanation about this area. He believed the hippocampus was a picture book of our memories – what we like or dislike.

Of course, discussing routine, lifestyle dieting and doing it are two different realities.

Of course, one possible way to boost memory is coffee. We love our coffee. The caveat is no sugar or milk. The key ingredient is caffeine. Johns Hopkins study showed that caffeine helped retain long-term memory. There was no correlation whether BDNF was part of the coffee test results. Coffee, as the most consumed beverage, also has been studied to show other benefits.

Doctors and theorists seem to agree that modified ketogenic diets coupled with exercise or any consistent aerobic activity offer many healthy benefits. The BDNF hypothesis is helped along by ketogenic dieting and activity offering a package of body and brain benefits.

Consensual, intimate BDSM (dominant/submissive) might be a physical, calorie burning activity that might promote a good heart rate and possible BDNF through creativity and challenges. It is not deemed normal by many. It’s kinky. Yet it evokes much interest.

In BDSM alternative lifestyle role-play, the leader demands obedience from the following partner. Done well, the challenges might really tax thinking and BDNF production. Role-play is an activity and can be challenging and fun. It does require healthy communication in the game. Using BDSM as foreplay (along with a diet) might be an alternative to walking rapidly for 45-minutes. Even Italian researchers associate sexiness with BDNF. The thorough research was admittedly from a small sample of subjects. For BDNF, that’s amore.

Health also evokes much interest and the thousands of bestselling books (i.e. David Perlmutter’s Grain Brain book), response to content often resounds with a giant thud.

That may be due to the sugar that has been added to package foods is like a deadly drug and artificial sweeteners that we love and can’t change our addiction with. We are slaves of sugar! We are the subjects of a planned system that sugars are good. It is difficult to disobey. Any alternative is an acquired taste or seen as punishment.

Then there are the 0 calorie artificial sweeteners!!

Still want to sweeten your coffee?

In light of longevity, or general health, the potential benefits of leaner bodies and robust memories face insurmountable challenges from the lifestyles we’ve adopted. Modifying those perceptions are akin to being a masochist – and as socially inappropriate. Yet it takes little work if motivated.

Recently, several BDNF testing procedures have begun. There are also studies of BDNF saliva tests. BDNF neuroscience and cognitive researchers, over the past few years, have not accurately assessed quantities and qualities required to assure BDNF optimal ranges for possible memory retention and reduction of dementia symptoms. Neurologists, however, agree that ketogenic diets and aerobic physical activity together stimulate BDNF production in the brain.

If someone proved that BDNF was really a great way to preserve memory, would you follow a ketogenic diet and exercise?

50 Shades of beauty and the beast

There are degrees of separation that theoretically define levels of human interaction. Yet in this wonderful world of colors, there seems to be a preoccupation with 50 shades of Grey. These aren’t colors. This is a fictional character. Through a unique relationship in a rather simplistic novel, it’s about exploring the shades of the grey matter lodged deeply in the brain. Reading the 50 Shades of Grey has become a world phenomenon. Why?

After a decade that a female British author bedazzled teens with worlds of magic and wizardry, another female British author delivered another tale of wonders for an adult audience. The tale is the 50 Shades of Grey. It is essentially Beauty and the Beast but not as Disney would portray it. The beast is not ugly, well not physically. The beast is wealthy and exciting. He is just what any woman (and some men) might consider a George Clooney kind of catch. There’s one snag. He can only “relate” to a woman as master and slave. Author EL James crafts a simple tale of how a rather commonly attractive young woman attracts “the not so perfect” Christian Grey, with a little give and take. But no real master and slave routine; just a unique form of bonding.

50 Shades of Grey is a 3-volume novel that, since published in 2011, has become one of the top-10 most sold literary works worldwide. A movie was released in 2015 with a sequel to follow soon. Why is this Beauty and the Beast so popular?

In an age of psychology and an emerging femdom class, the heroine toys with the beast to shed his ugly psychological layers as the beast toys with his feminine prey. Those are the 50 shades. They get married, have kids, and live happily ever after. Just like, we suppose, Beauty and the Beast. The 3-book story takes one very common plot and makes kinky BDSM approach normal. The books are among the top-10 fictional novels worldwide. It drove sales of erotic toys to the roof and may be responsible for a bump-up in the birth rate. Porn? Movie is only R-rated. It’s Beauty and the Beast with erotic spice. A classic plot where, like cartoons, the cat is outwitted by the mouse.

Is it possible that all the stories you have ever read involve only 7 key plots? The seven basic plots are: overcoming the monster; rags to riches; the quest; voyage and return; comedy; tragedy; rebirth. Plots are themes. The plot might be viewed as action, while the story is the emotions associated with the action. “Overcoming the monster” may be one of the key plots. Is it the monster within your self or of others. Variances are often referred as plot shades. The “The Beauty and the Beast” folk tale is a popular plot. The popular success of 50 Shades of Grey as a trilogy of novels and subsequent movies was yet another modernization of this plot. The books and movie drove digital media profits and now more Beauty and the Beast erotic novels are dotting Amazon Kindle and Google.

“Overcoming the monster” has always been a great plot. It has been used with wars, criminals, and the supernatural. They are addicting; often challenging our minds and bodies to overcome adversities with new sets of tools. Horror movies, for example (no matter how silly), use formulas over and over again. People are continually fascinated with the plots and action.

One popular TV show, Dexter, had an improbable story where the medical examiner of a police department was also a serial killer. Serial killers are normally monsters but Dexter was a killer with noble purposes. The durability of the series was through constant adventures and character development. Ultimately, Dexter was overcome by the challenges of life itself.

In 50 Shades of Grey, Christian Grey may seem monstrous to many. He is the beast within a suit of incredible wealth, power, and magnetism. Most readers found him fascinating. It was the smart but naïve innocence of Anastasia Steele to wield the sword at Grey’s beasts through passion and love. While it could be considered taboo or pornographic, the basic instincts of finding true love while overcoming the monster is the iconic formula. There is a Dr.Jekyll and Mr. Hyde in each of us and overcoming the monster is survival.

50 Shades of Grey made digital media tablets surge. Rather than carry the books around, you were able to read with the privacy of your smartphone or tablet screen.

Plots and stories intertwine to make the simple equation entertaining, provocative, and current. Carl Jung, a peer and competitor of Freud’s more popular psychoanalysis, believed that consciousness involves archetype personalities. Novels, like personalities, knit and play with very basic plots. An author with proficiency and artistry can take that same plot as a painter can bring an image come to life from just shades of 3 primary colors.

Jung defined twelve primary types that symbolize basic human motivations. Each type has its own set of values, meanings and personality traits. The key 4 are Self, Shadows, Animus, and Persona. Jung highlighted a number of archetypes, including the ‘anima’, the ‘mother’, the ‘shadow’, the ‘child’, the ‘wise old man’, the ‘spirits’ of fairytales, and the ‘trickster’ figure found in myths and history. Myths, tales, and rumors often guide our consciousnesses regardless of validity.

Unveiling the 50 shades of Christian Grey was undeniably attractive to so many that the erotic novel has ascended to over 100 million books sold worldwide, not including digital sales. E.L.James, yet another of many female erotic novelists, elevated 50 Shades of Grey to literature. As in the Beauty and the Beast, it is the female that is empowered to disenchant the male beast through patience, love, and nurturance. Needless to say, more literary 50 shades imitations are evolving with many attracting female readers.

Vampires, phantoms, monsters, and beasts were often overcome by females in countless novels through the past two centuries. Dracula could be killed if a woman, of her own free will, kept him awake long enough to see sunlight. In the folk tale Beauty and the Beast, the poor beauty dares to lift the curse that has turned the wealthy prince into a monstrous beast. Within the set of plots and Jung’s archetypes of shadows and mothers, the pulp writing of 50 Shades of Grey will probably be considered the most popular literary contributions of the 21st century! Is 50 Shades kinky porn? Does it ignite the shadows within women to extend beyond limited persona?

Jung’s archetypes have no scientific validities, Jung believed that the influence of the mother on a child derived not only from the actual mother, but also from the Great Mother archetype. Christian influences on Jung extended the shifting roles of two simplistic yet complex Great Mothers. The Great Mother is an archetype of opposites, including at one end the sympathetic, caring, solicitous mother and at the other the devouring, seductive, poisonous mother. The first may be represented by the Virgin Mary, for example, while the latter might be represented by Kali, the mother who devours her young. In many ways, mothers can nurture or destroy, according to Jung’s ways of thinking. Does the unveiling and outcome of 50 Shades of Grey help revise that thinking?

While BDSM and out-of-mainstream sex pervades the 50 Shades series and imitators, BDSM is no longer considered a psychological disease in the psychiatric diagnostic statistic manual. It’s an alternate lifestyle. Perhaps not as acceptable as homosexuality, these books legitimize the concepts of role-play among consenting adults. “Consenting” is a powerful word. Suprisingly, more women are fascinated by these consensual fantasies than ordinary sex. The action in 50 Shades of Grey was always consensual. Consent and safety are the nets that entice and coexist in a world where more women are placed in controlling positions. It is the dominance of the Great Mother that stretches and survives through adversities. There’s always that mix of sugar and spice.

Consensual role-play may be how persons discover the stuff hidden by persona. According to Jung, the Persona archetype is how an individual projects to others, as differentiated from the authentic self. In contrast to Jung’s reference to environment and society, revelations through role-play may help refresh some stale relationships. Then again, they can destroy them too. Cutting through personas is often very delicate in a society that endorses masks of many layers. The play in 50 Shades of Grey is more fantasy play and it isn’t easy to determine to what extent the couples go.

No one will object to the different interpretations of the Beauty and the Beast scenario and story. It is the ultimate chick-flick formula. 50 Shades of Grey may seem unorthodox to many. Within the limited number of plots, author EL James appears very ordinary. Yet, in 2015, (in books and film) her variation of Beauty and the Beast is still exciting and relevant. What it says is that the power of the myth and tales that extend reach far deeper than even Jung could have imagined.

Beneath and behind, ones unimaginable thoughts might be someone’s reality. Most countries around the world view consensual BDSM play on the fringe of legal, provided there is no lasting harm. If you can imagine the reluctant Beauty locked in one of the beast’s dungeons, the consensuality and eroticism in the pages of 50 Shades of Grey seem tame to Disney or the classic Cocteau movie version. The ends are somewhat the same.

The surprising popularity of 50 Shades of Grey opens the realities few have shared to many. For some, it is gospel, for more it is entertainment and for most it’s trash. Undeniably, 50 Shades of Grey helped make consensual BDSM play more accessible. Of the many shades that can be interpreted from different versions of Beauty and the Beast fairy tales (and once upon times) the plot will return. You can count on it.

The ever afters might be different. The stories change and the plot becomes more meaningful. Our addiction to overcoming monsters remains a set of learning dominant tactics that, through fiction, breed answers to some intrinsic problems. Unveiling the shades of people, the environment, and the self are not necessarily psychology. Sometimes fiction draws closer to the core than most of us might imagine.

Being kinky is healthy kind of odd

We adore our individualities and our common bonds. We also share our uniquenesses and discriminate those that are uncommon. We grow with and form groups and attachments. In the “We” of things, day-to-day living is fairly normal and normality is defined as average. Then there are those that are different. They may be revered or hated, admired or disdained. Those aren’t usually part of normal. They might make up less than 4% of the total population. Those are so far out that they might be considered kinky and their kinkiness either impresses or disturbs. Both coexist. Yet some among the kinky, over time, do passively or actively influence those that make the majority. Who are they? How have they changed your ways of living?

Apart from intimate relationships, we love our icons. Artist, publisher, and performer Andy Warhol was quoted as saying “In the future, everyone will be world-famous for 15 minutes.” Some say that he might have been referring to game show contestants. In a world seeking icons, some people are barely famous for 15 minutes while very few “famous” people are remembered for longer periods. Those, I believe, are beyond average. In an interview on PBS’ American Experience, Mel Brooks discussed some of the pitfalls and peaks he experienced before achieving historic fame as a comedy writer and director.

There are normally famous people who pass in moments, some longer than others. Then there are those unique people who think and behave out of normal. They are those with special creative personalities, often less appreciated in their own time. They were and are not normal but some have helped shape new norms. These may be (statistically) viewed as kinky. Being kinky may be a healthy kind of odd even when normal people feel it’s speculative, risky, or crazy. Being kinky is a healthy kind of odd, at least among the kinky. Kinks do occasionally affect the normal world in progressive, positive, and exciting ways. Think about your tablet, PC, or smartphone. Weren’t these once one’s fantasy? Kinky opportunities help make fantasies come true for one and for many.

In statistics, when you’re collecting characteristic data world-wide, you find zig-zags and the largest one (where the most are) is considered the average. Then there are other bumps called modes. The modes farther from the average get smaller, with fewer numbers of data scores. These are the deviants, heading toward 2 or more deviations from average. In one of them there are those represented as having certain exceptional qualities. These may be the odd folks behind the machines you use and the policies you follow. These may be some performers and sportsters you admire. This mode is called a kink in the chart and, those in it, may be kinky.

It could be you. It could be one of your parents, siblings, children, friends and business associates. It is often very private or a secret. There’s one person in over 10,000 that could be kinky. There may be more that want to be kinky. Kinkiness is odd but being kinky may be a healthy kind of odd, far away from average. With the exception of sickness or criminality, being kinky makes you special and a healthy side of odd.

Normal people, as average, tend to think within the box, no matter how diverse that box is. Kinky people, despite upbringing, usually think beyond the box. Successful kinky people are often remembered as major historical figures. They are the creators beyond the average. Their relationships and associations may not conform well with those in average groups. They usually find other kinky people but, out of the box.

Kinky people often don’t find their matches and many are moody and prone to predispositioning swings. In the balance of nature and nurture, nature often wins among kinky people for better or worse. Prominent psychologist, Maslow may have admired them as being self-actualized but this psychologist’s looking glass targeted a very narrow vision of humanity. Maslow is also remembered by psychologists as a father of a humanist approach to psychotherapy.

Maslow’s earliest works on Power Relationships might have been seen as notoriously kinky. Maslow believed that the power relationship is biologically determined; for Maslow, male domination and female submission are inevitable for sexual pleasure and self-esteem. For some obvious reasons, these small studies from the late 1930’s to early 1940’s aren’t generally accepted today and hidden from undergraduate textbooks. His later studies and books on hierarchy of needs remain very popular.

Indeed, in the rational world of psychology, all of the memorable masters were on the kinky side. Is being kinky the healthy side of odd? Are these the wizards of odd we dream about?

In a word association test, if presented with the word “Kinky”, your association might be “Sex”. Kinky is referred to something deviant, or not normal. Is it normal or kinky? In this live and let live, dog eat dog world, being average is revered. It’s part of survival. You could be near average. Kinky might refer to those who are deviations from average. These are the thinkers, discovers, inventors, and creators that aren’t like everyone else. These are the Michelangelo, DaVinci, Mozart, Gershwin, Frank Lloyd Wright, John Lennon, and others who have set their marks by being different. Those marks were unique and individual. In a word, kinky means not average. Being kinky is a healthy kind of odd. It is being odd nonetheless.

“Kinky” is a rare breed, possibly less than 10% of the population. It’s actually far less and does not include the statistics of the sick and disabled, though someone like Stephen Hawking might be kinky too. George Lucas, Stephen King, Bill Gates and Mark Zuckerberg (Facebook) may be kinky too. They each reshaped the average world but they are far from the average when you consider how they did it.

At any time in civilization, concepts of normal have been constantly redefined. The normal practices of paganism were often at odds with monotheistic beliefs in early civilizations. Those that became a minority and deviated from majority thoughts were ostracized, punished, and slaughtered. Yet oddity seems to help move things forward. Steve Jobs had this kinky idea of a pocket computer, his iPhone and competing smartphones redefine the norms of 21st century society. Practically anyone in history that uniquely opposed normal ways of thinking might be called uniquely kinky.

The peculiarity of the kink was often historically accepted if it was not considered abusive. Standards of abuse also changed over the years. More people seem to have kinky ideas about realizing the impossibles. Emerging technologies are changing normal ways of accessing and using things and those changes are often challenged as being abnormal. Being kinky is often a subject of mass debate.

At the exceptional deviated range of a statistics scale, you might find great artists and musicians. A couple of points, such as mood swings and disinhibition, may stand out as personality characteristics but they are also extremely outgoing and social. Like artists, a recent survey showed that, besides sensitivities and mood swings, kinky people reported higher levels of well-being in the past two weeks than people outside it, and they reported more secure feelings of attachment in their relationships. They exhibited more positive attitudes. They rend to share many of the attributes found in the creative personality type. Smart but naïve, it’s reported that creative people combine playfulness and discipline, or responsibility and irresponsibility. Some of these elements show why sexually kinky people may be drawn to BDSM play. It isn’t an exclusive trait but exceptionally creative people tend to do things differently than normal people.

Yet kinky things tend to have leaked into the normal average range. There are some interesting things going on.

Now, in fashion, novels, movies, and television, there seems to be growing interests in kinky sex practices. Has kinky sex or, rather, kinky sexual fantasies shifted to some kid of normal?

The results of a 2013 Dutch study made conclusions that those engaging in a BDSM sexual lifestyle might be healthier than those that engage in normal sex on some levels.

At one time, homosexuality was hidden and considered kinky. Today, some States and Cities allow homosexual marriage. In a recent government survey by the Center of Disease Control about 4% reported being homosexual. A larger British sexual survey noted some significant changes in what defines sexual normality.

The Journal of Sex surveyed 1500 Canadian adults on sexual fantasies and found that kinky fantasies were more normal than previously thought. The Lelo Global Sex Survey seems to indicate that, following the bestselling 50 Shades of Gray, respondents reported a normalization of sex. More respondents did note that toys and erotica were used in greater frequency. This might have been considered kinky 30 years ago.

The e-book boomer women write and read the ever-changing scopes of erotica fantasy books. Many, like the Shades of Gray”, involve dominant and submissive fantasies. The eros game is no longer the exclusive world of men. It is not considered sleazy by many women.

American women, with religious backgrounds, appear to have a voracious appetite for e-book erotica, driving sales to soar each year. Being kinky and romantic seems to add new flavors to modern fantasies. Perhaps one of the many surprises from the past came from the Kinsey reports that seemed to reflect that, as far as sex was concerned, normal might actually have been kinky by most social standards.

In the more competitive world of women, kinky is often a fashionable touch of freedom. Yet, compared to women’s romantic erotica, dominant fashion belies submissive fantasies.

When discussing any form of non-marital sex, consensuality is as hotly debated topic over many levels. When it comes to kinky sex, the term rising at colleges and other meeting areas is RACK or Risk Aware Consensual Kink. The point is clear. Kinky behavior is not to be mistaken with abusive behavior. A RACK relationship is not abusive. It is, however, not normal by any means.

BDSM and fetish play tries very hard to distinguish its mutually consenting kinky fantasy roles from normal domestic violence. Domestic violence, sometimes called battering, family violence, or intimate partner violence, is a pattern of behavior used to establish power and control over another person through fear and intimidation, often including the threat or use of violence. Domestic violence can include physical abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, economic abuse, and/or sexual abuse. Abusers use threats, intimidation, isolation, and other behaviors to gain and maintain power over their victims. On average, there are 20 victims per minute suffering from domestic violence.

People who engage in kinky sex play take many precautions that distinguish what may seem violent to domestic violence. Use of safewords allow for breaks when play seems too rough. Because it is mutually consented supporting play, these kinky scenes are thoroughly discussed between partners prior to initiating the play. Virtually anything that might be expected has been anticipated in advance. Domestic violence doesn’t have these safety nets and most definitely are not games. Kinky sex play can be controlled whereas domestic violence can’t. Kinky play is done by trusting couples as ways of acting to fulfill mutual fantasies. Domestic violence is an act of crime.

Kinky fantasies are generally about supportive love and attention at sharing within an intimate association. It’s more play and is seen by women’s lifestyle media and women’s internet sites as a type of fun. Unlike domestic violence, there is no victimization. It’s partner play and the mantra is Absolute Trust between them.

Those involved in creating safe and consensual BDSM or other kinky relationships are definitely two or three deviations from normal. Yet, according to a February 2014 article in Smithsonian Magazine on BDSM, many admit to using blindfolds and other kinky toys during sex. According to the 2005 Durex Global Sex Survey (PDF), 36 percent of U.S. adults have had sex using masks, blindfolds, or other forms of bondage (compared to 20 percent worldwide). These numbers may reflect those who admit they “experimented” as an enhancement. As to a BDSM community that routinely has these relationships, some research indicate that actual numbers are roughly less than 4% and many have incomes of more than 1 million dollars per year. Now that’s kinky!

With all this eager fantasies and play with BDSM, over 50% of men and women admit they have submissive sexual fantasies but don’t necessarily act on them. These fantasies are rarely shared with partners.

Erotic fiction by female authors (and geared for women) follow themes of being captured and being saved by a sort of antihero who takes the woman on a massive sexual adventure beyond dreams. Ultimately, the woman turns the martial relationship into a marital relationship. What is erotically kinky eventually becomes quite normal. The plot is generally living happily ever after with Prince Charming, in an uncommon uniform and large castle.

Neurocognitive studies, though rather small, find that sexual fantasies in mind and act may release key neurotransmitters that help enhance mood, focus, and drive. There are somewhat significant variations in brain responses among men and women. Sex and fantasy do drive rich interlobe functioning within the brain. Unusual or kinky fantasies may be more food for thought.

Fantasies of all kinds may be seen as personal and many are kinky. They are alternate realities, semi-conscious vacations that help manage stress and support longer cognitive lifespans. While many feel it is normal to keep fantasies personal, partners sharing fantasies may find therapeutic values. An underlying problem are the consequences of sharing your fantasies with your partner or spouse, especially if they have kinky flavors.

The inability to easily share or act-out fantasies with a trusted love partner may be one source of marriage break-ups. While it may be healthy to think of someone else in a fantasy, not having (and sharing) fantasies could lead to separations and divorce. While sharing or acting out kinky fantasies may be somewhat more normal than you think, the normal is only 54 percent of men and 60 percent of women had married once. The alarming normal about marriage sanctity is that The median number of years a first marriage lasted which ended in divorce was about 8
years for men and women overall. Miscommunication and not sharing are more normal confounders of marriages than sharing kinky fantasies.

Popular counselor for women and couples, Dr. Laura Berman discusses sexual fantasies as not only being normal but also healthy for women, including the popular theme about being ravaged and taken control of. In business, however, women fight to achieve more control in leadership positions, with a velvet glove.

Like most things in life, the quest for everyday normal work and leisure is the common adult fantasy and hopeful reality. Much of industry has supported the stable family with school programs, commuting conveniences, comfortable housing and wage benefits. In bible-conscious communities, women still learn that home is the center of life and thrive to maintain and beautify it.

Vacations and vacation leave from work help add spice and flavors to the everyday normal existence. Vacations are alternate realities and are considered supportive to healthy living and stress management.

The normal ecclesiastically forbidden notions of not acting out fantasies often result in angers and frustrations when vacations less available. Under questionable economics, the inabilities to take vacations or to not “live” alternate realities can lead to breakdowns.
Economic and political instability threaten normality with rising unemployment and socio-economic woes of inflation. These are the kinkinesses that threaten the illusions of normal living that can throw people, marriages, and families over the edge.

As people age and body conditions and endurance undergo changes, the conventional fantasies of youth may be unconventional. Yet, sex after 60 is also considered healthy. Obsessing and regretting about old fantasies may be depressing. Seemingly kinky, sex after 60 offers many cardiovascular benefits. During sex, your heart races, your metabolic rate increases, you burn calories, and stretch and strengthen muscles. Sex has also been shown to boost the immune system and provide stress relief, just like a good cardio session. Moving away from the normal missionary position and shifting to kinky explorations, you may be able to churn away up to 100 calories in 30 minutes. Engaging in erotic massage between the two of you also reaps many benefits, especially women. There may be sensual areas rarely explored before. Engaging in sensual massage with your partner offers new twists in an aging spectrum. Is it kinky? Maybe. When the orthodox methods fail, you may not need a pill. You may find greater power in touching.

As ideas that change the world at large or your personal world, being a little kinky may be attributable to healthy characteristics for you. There are many abusive acts carried out bodily and mentally and BDSM fantasies and acts have long ways to go to being considered normal behavior. Fantasies are the products of dreams and help build cognitive processes through those dreams.

There are healthy associations with kinky sex play. There are also many kinky personalities, scientists, engineers, and politicians whose visions beyond normal help expand our world to meet new challenges and experience greater joys. Sometimes being kinky is not a choice but, if you think about it, being kinky may be a healthy kind of odd.

Barring addictions, disease and crime, kinky behaviors are still seen as rebellious dissents from normal. Only time can bring normalization to kinky behaviors. The first monotheists were probably seen as kinky by the pagans. Early Christians endured vile punishments from pagan Rome. Oddly, a few hundred years later, Rome was chosen for the formation of the Catholic church. People who searched for herbs and made alchemy potions were treated as criminals by the medieval Catholic church. Today they are alternative specialists. Certain old church practices regarding divorce and homosexuality are being reconsidered in Pope Francis’ current reign at the Vatican. Based on th3e moirés of the day or era, differences arise as to what is kinky and what isn’t. As with homosexuality, uniquenesses and kinky behaviors are often beyond therapeutic reach.

Kinks exist as deviations from the average that may be attractions and therapeutic in their own ways. They lie in art rather than science and remain so immeasurably small that they can’t be studied. As such, kinkiness often excites curiosity. What we know from quasi-scientific surveys is that more than few people think about kinky behaviors, sexual or technical. If someone would have told you in 1960 that people would be using notebook computers, the internet, and pocket phones that use apps and texting, would it have been credible? Geniuses, beyond the average, perhaps kinky geeks, helped create this new level of normality. Deviations from normal often help shape tomorrows.

Evolutionary biologists note that there are kinky-like behaviors in the animal kingdom. It isn’t exclusive to humans. Or are we adding our own perceptions of kink?

Kinky behaviors and kinky sex are still things that should be restricted to consenting adults. Anything else would be a crime. Kinky is odd and unique. Some kinks lie at the roots of progress and some may be stoic, forgotten as passing fantasies and ideas.

Being kinky is a healthy kind of odd but be wary that it can also be frosted with criminality and sickness. Kinky rests deviantly beyond the range of average normality, as long as it remains kinky and perceived as some form of taboo. The significances of kink and kinky behaviors are often researched and discussed. They seem to be popular topics. At best, some are transient with passing time, while others merely remain kinky.

Kinky has nothing really to do with kinky sex. Some who fall into that kinky mode on the statistical scale are high-level professionals that are very different than those in the average group. While kinky behaviors have somehow absorbed into society through the various media, kinky play is still a small splinter among the overall that are curious or interested. As a statistical mode, the bump is much smaller than those who are involved in domestic violence. There are fewer kinky people.

Being kinky might be associated with adopting abnormal lifestyles like veganism, running, yoga, and other lifestyles that few ever follow-up or integrate or even select. Those that choose a quick-fix diet (and stop) are normal. Those who stay the course might be considered kinky.

In any age there will be a normal average and a kinky variance from normal. There will always be exchanges, albeit reluctantly. Kinky people will always be a small minority. Negating kinky influences, existences or their contributions to normal reality are counterproductive. They are open to questions. They are parts of the unknown that people continue to explore with unabated curiosity. For all that matters or doesn’t, beneath the planks and behind the corners, kinky behaviors and fantasies might questionably be a creative and healthy kind of odd, at least, for those very few. And, sometimes, enjoyed by many for (at least) 15 minutes.